Dear Older Self, You may find yourself resisting the changes and growing vulnerabilities of aging because of fear. But you might also find yourself resisting because of feelings of shame. Shame is that belief that if people knew you fully, they would reject you. It is that feeling that you are less-than others. Or the sense that your needs make you look weak and unloveable. You know how shame … [Read more...] about Notes to Our Older Selves: Practice Humility
Notes to Our Older Selves: Learn to Laugh
Dear Older Self, People close to you told you when you were in your twenties that you were overly serious. But, over the years, you have learned to not take everything so seriously. You have embraced laughter. As you grow older you will need to continue to let go of being too serious. You will need to continue to grow in your ability to laugh. What a delightful assignment this could be! It might … [Read more...] about Notes to Our Older Selves: Learn to Laugh
Notes to Our Older Selves: Live With New Limits
Dear Older Self, I know that you will experience growing limitations as you get older. I know because it is already happening. Your energy and strength are not what they once were. For example, you once worked full weeks at work while keeping up with a busy schedule with family and other activities. But recently you have needed to cut back at work. You once jogged several miles several times a … [Read more...] about Notes to Our Older Selves: Live With New Limits
Notes to Our Older Selves: Introduction
We began writing Notes to Our Older Selves when we were in our fifties. We were in that season of life when it is common to watch parents and elderly friends grow older and become more dependent. We knew that we were soon to follow. As we worked to support those in the generation ahead of us, we were in a position to observe moments of grace and moments of gracelessness. After difficult encounters … [Read more...] about Notes to Our Older Selves: Introduction
Notes to Our Older Selves
Dear friends, Thank you for your patience with me as I took a break from posting for the last few months. Thanks to those of you who checked in to see if I was okay. And thanks as well to those of you who let me know you missed hearing from me. Thanks to all of you for your support in reading, and sometimes interacting with, what I share here. I have had a challenging year but I am well and … [Read more...] about Notes to Our Older Selves
Know That You Are Loved
I trust in your unfailing love. Psalm 13:5 After my second surgery my husband and I spent a week at the beach. Both of us needed to recuperate from the many weeks of uncertainty and strain. It was the week of our thirty-seventh wedding anniversary. So we needed to both rest and celebrate. We were no longer waiting for results. We were no longer anticipating the possibility of radiation … [Read more...] about Know That You Are Loved
Be Who You Are
Whoever loses his life for my sake will find it. Matthew 10:39 One day while driving along a familiar road, I found myself accelerating through a yellow light. Everyone behind me had to stop, and I felt for an instant that I had “won.” It was as if we had all been racing and I had just pulled ahead and beat everyone. I enjoyed my small victory. But my pride didn’t last long. In order to … [Read more...] about Be Who You Are
Let Yourself Be Carried
He tends his flock like a shepherd; He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart. Isaiah 40:11 One summer we took a trip to Maine to visit family. While there, we went to an island off the coast to spend a few days hiking. On one of our hikes, my husband commented on the fact that the trail we were on was no longer a trail but a long series of boulders we had to … [Read more...] about Let Yourself Be Carried
Celebrate Each Day
This is the day that the Lord has made; we will rejoice and be glad in it. Psalm 118:24 The kind of cancer I had was not life-threatening, but because of the diagnosis, I came to know more directly than ever before that I am not immune from catastrophic illness and death. With this refresher course in personal mortality came a heightened capacity to taste the sweetness of life. Life is … [Read more...] about Celebrate Each Day
Make Room for Laughter
There is a time for everything, and a season for everything under heaven, a time to weep and a time to laugh. Ecclesiastes 3:1,4 Many years ago when I was first dating my husband, he made the comment that it might be good for me to learn to laugh more. At the time I was so serious about everything that I didn’t really know what he was talking about. I have learned to lighten up over the … [Read more...] about Make Room for Laughter
